ANGER MONKEY
We understand what you are going through and know how to get you through it. Maybe you don't have an anger problem but live with someone who does or you were court ordered because the police had to take someone away, either way you are probably angry now. Most people know what makes them angry but few know why they get so angry for so long. These classes have helped hundreds learn skills that resolve anger issues at the source.
Anger Monkey Anger Solutions is a provider of court certified Century anger management classes. Based on the most recent research in neuroscience the Century cognitive behavioral method is accepted by the U.S. Navy, state and federal courts, police departments, mental health services, major corporations, probation departments, V.A. Hospitals, churches and private practices.
Calif. State Board of Corrections
Huntington Beach Police Dept.
Vineyard of Anaheim
Calif. Board of Behavioral Scientists
Orange County Probation Dep.
National Mental Healthe Asso.
Court Ordered Classes
Restraining orders and domestic
violence issues are very stressful. Often with no evidence, many have gone to jail over a simple argument. Learn how to deal with this legal and emotional crisis with tools designed for toxic roller coaster relationships and the flood of emotions that go with it.
Personal Classes
One hour sessions focusing on personal anger triggers and core issues. Learn why you are angry over the same Issues and how to resolve it. I develop a weekly “game plan” based on your anger style and life situation to help you respond to volatile situations toxic relationships and family drama.
Faith Based Classes
We offer faith based sessions for those desiring to include a biblical aspect.Anger, guilt and shame effect how we view God and interpret life situations. No cliche's or religious slogans simply a way to understand anger and stress issues from a non denominational theological perspective.
Adult Anger Management
The adult anger workbook covers the 8 tools that are the recognized standard for identifying and solving anger issues.
Based on the latest in cognitive and neurological research this book has proven to be the preferred method
Teen Anger Management
The Teen workbook is designed for the adolescent brain. These 8 anger tools will help them understand why the daily drama can cause very strong emotions while they learn skills that will last a lifetime
the anger style
Our family environment and dynamics helped form an "anger style" pattern that worked for us. Over time that became a habit which carved a deep neural pathway in the brain resulting in an automatic unconscious reaction. In order to effectively disarm repeated anger issues, we must create new neural pathways by changing how we respond. It doesn't take months or years to learn these skills, usually in a few weeks people start seeing good results, but it does take practice.
anger on the brain
Because of the amygdala and other structures in your brain, you may experience anger now in your life which may actually be caused by a mixture of what is causing it now and experiences you have had in the past. This “old anger” is activated by your brain in its attempt to protect you.” Neuroscientists call this “implicit memory”—meaning that we can experience the negative effects of a memory without even realizing that it is memory that we are having.
anger triggers
Ever get hurt or outraged over something and later wonder why you got so upset? It may have been been something silly, but if your brain subconsciously connected it to a traumatic memory or toxic childhood message, you felt an intense amount of sadness or rage. Our subconscious is a virtual storehouse of painful events and strong emotions from our earliest memories to tragic events that happened last month, a trigger occurs when our brain "uploads information from a previous similar event by connecting to a past painful memory. The problem is the mind has made a false connection causing us to over react, deeply wounded or outraged in the face of a perceiving a threat that was not there
core issues
A core issue is a false belief about ourself that we believe is partially true. Early repeated messages of "shame on you", "are you stupid" or "It's all your fault" can effect the way we hear criticism and react to life's troubles. Often a core issue becomes a mouthpiece in our head of non stop shame, blame and guilt and if a core issue gets triggered anger or sadness will follow. Understanding what triggers your anger will lead you to heal the core issues that are at the root of it. Managing anger without solving the problem is like trying to heard a bunch of drunk cats.
shame and faith
When shame becomes the window through which one interprets hard times and suffering, daily struggles take on an over spiritual or sinister meaning. A fender bender, speeding ticket or even a sickness become lessons sent from God to correct and purify. Instead of accepting that trials and troubles hit everyone, life becomes drama after another unknowingly they they are victims of their own thinking. They believe God is rarely is pleased with them, unless being "broken" by Him they serve others others by "setting them straight or "telling the truth in love".
what shame looks like
It is a hyper critical self image that demands perfection. A person who has shame as a core issue will beat themselves up endlessly without mercy. A person who experiences shame feels flawed at the core. The bad feelings carried within the self [such as guilt, self loathing, and feelings of failure] are not a result of what they did, but instead are about “who they believe they are.”Therefore, no amount of apologizing or repenting for wrongs can make the feelings go away. They may receive complements or praise but not be able to feel encouraged because they really don’t believe what is said.
false charges
Often court ordered people in my classes do not have anger problems. You are not alone, I get it, people scam the system. I see it every week someone goes to jail because someone lied to the police, women and men equally. If you are still speaking to this person these classes will show you how to deal with angry controlling people, how to communicate and when not to. What someone had meant for evil has turned out to be a good thing for so many because the best way to understand an angry person is to learn about anger
skills learned in our classes
Identify destructive communication patterns
Identify your anger patterns and purpose they serve
Understand and apply the eight tools of anger control in your life
Identify and modify self-talk and thinking patterns that cause anger
Decrease resentments by learning forgiveness and acceptance skills.
Understand basic concepts of how the brain "hijacks" from stress or anger
Develop "emotional intelligence" skills of empathy and empathic listening
Develop the skill of responding instead of automatically reacting to stress
Identify and modify unrealistic expectations toward individuals or situations
what healthy anger looks like
Use different anger styles to deal with any conflict
Recognize anger as a signal that there is a problem
Take action only after they have thought it through
Solving the problem is always the goal, stay focused
Communicate the conflict clearly without escalation
Choose battles and know when to let the anger go
Express anger in moderation without losing control
Recognize anger is a normal part of daily life
what to expect
It takes one conversation about your situation to identify a pattern of anger revolving around the same issues Problematic anger issues start at a sub conscious level, most folks that have a "bad temper" may not fully know why. Anger management begins with were you are now, unlike a therapist we don't need to dig up a lot of the past, just the basics. At the first session I will draw up a diagram of issues and triggers based on you anger style with that we can talk about a "game plan" for the week, 3 things to work on or watch out for especially if people are trying to push your buttons.
When will I see a change
When people see me it is usually in a crisis, bad relationship or a situation where there is not a lot of hope that things will change, for the most part their situation does not change at all, but they do... they know the only person they can change is themselves. I have been fortunate to help so many who believed their anger style was set in stone.. "that's just who they were" It doesn't take months or years to learn these skills, usually in a few weeks people start seeing good results, but it does take practice.
ANGER MONKEY ANGER SOLUTIONS
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all classes $30
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